Recently I was having a conversation with a dear woman in her 40’s about sex and intimacy. As she was recounting her sexual history she spoke of all the times she’d let sex continue even when her body was in pain. With tears in her eyes she said she wished she’d spoken up for her body sooner.
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These days she advocates for herself with much more ease.
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I share this because I was deeply moved by her story and her bravery to unapologetically stop having sex in certain ways. I think her story is something we can all relate to on some level. Maybe it’s not sex for you - maybe it’s knowing when to stop eating or stop exercising or stop something else entirely.
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Whatever it is know that you are your own best advocate. No one knows your body better than you do. Treat it as the sacred vessel it is. You are worthy of the kind of pleasure you desire!
Gratitude List No. 1
Self Love Is A Practice
Try this on as a "what if." Take a breath and begin to explore your physical form with curiosity... what if your thoughts could illicit emotions that were shaping your physical form? What if you had incredible power and could create by thought alone? How would you wield it? What loving thoughts would you devote yourself to?
Body love (and acceptance) begins as a thought. Play it on repeat like your teenage self played that fave song, you know the one that made you feel so deeply, the one that spoke to your soul. Play your loving thoughts until you move past knowing the words to embodying them.
Ps. You ARE that powerful.
Unplug & Recharge
Sometimes I feel like I have two children - one is my entrepreneur self, the other is my spiritual teacher self. I try to give them each quality time alone but mostly I'm a busy mamma trying keep it all going while tending to my sanity. It's not quite as chaotic as that sounds but great metaphor, right?
Last year I did something I'd never done before and took a month off completely unplugged. I turned my phone off and put it in a drawer and powered down my computer. When I turned everything back on again the world was still turning, I hadn't missed anything big and my clients were all still there. It was proof that it's ok to create longer spans of time for radical self care.
And so I've decided it's an annual gift that I give to myself. The first 10 days are reserved for my spiritual self. We will sit in silence together and commune with the trees on this land we call home. Then, on the 11th day, I'll call my mom, my sister, my bestie and begin to ease back into connectedness with my people.
See you all August 1st with pictures of the completed tiny yoga studio!
I love you,
Lacy
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